Girl or Woman, Which One Are You?

Girl or Woman, Which One Are You?

I was in town the other day driving around with my younger sister when I spotted the most mind boggling bumper sticker I have ever seen. Now, I have traveled a lot and I have seen many bumper stickers. Some were humorous, others rude, and some biblical, but this topped them all because it caused me to become angry-over a sticker!  It said “HISTORY NEVER REMEMBERED WOMEN WHO BEHAVED”. I sat and thought about it for a moment. All my life growing up I had heard more about honorable women then about vile women. Sure, there was Cleopatra, Helen of Troy, Queen Mary I (Bloody Mary), Marilyn Monroe, and I’m sure I missed quite a few, but when I think of women throughout History, noble, brave, honorable, and virtuous women come to mind.

Maybe it’s just the day and age we live in. Schools don’t teach about women like Martha or Mary Washington, Joan of Arc, Florence Nightingale, Anne Frank, Susanna Wesley, Clara Barton, Sarah Adams and many, many more! Instead those historical heroines are replaced with women like Marion Reid and Caroline Norton, founders of the feminist movement, Margaret Sanger, founder of the Planned Parenthood organization, and others of the like. It’s no wonder that noble women of the past are blotted out in today’s society.

It’s so sad that girls in the 21st century are under the pressure of feminists who say that girls should be independent, sexy, strong, bold and masculine. “We can do what we want, when we want, and with whom we want.” No one knows the beautiful truth of what being a feminine, virtuous, beautiful, graceful woman means.

How can we fight the angry tide of feminists, naysayer’s and radicalists of the demanding century that we live in? We must become Women of God. But what is a Woman of God?

Real women are hard to find today. Not just a girl with a career, good looks and a college degree. I mean a real woman. A woman who is not afraid to be ridiculed for what she believes in, a woman who is ready to take the next generation into battle against people who want to destroy children, our country, and people who rid the schools and society of God. Not just anyone can be a woman. It takes strength of mind, heart and soul. It takes undefiled love and devotion to one’s family, friends and Lord.

A thirteen year old girl with a sweet demeanor and a spirit that is one with the Lord’s calling and will for her life defines her more as a woman than that of a 25 year old girl with a brash and brazen character immune to her conscience and Savior.

To be a woman is to have grace, dignity, class, and character, devotion to The Lord, love for her family, care, selflessness, compassion and above all, wisdom.

Devote yourself to learning and practicing these character traits of a godly woman. They will define you in your later years. I love this quote by the Former U.S. Senate Chaplain Peter Marshall. Sometime during the 1940’s, he stood up to teach and said this in his sermon:

“The world has enough women who know how to be smart. It needs women who are willing to be simple. The world has enough women who know how to be brilliant. It needs some who will be brave. The world has enough women who are popular. It needs more who are pure. We need women, and men, too, who would rather be morally right than socially correct.”

― Former U.S. Senate Chaplain Peter Marshall 1940’s

Being a woman in today’s culture is frowned upon; the kind of woman with the description above is not accepted easily. Men want flirtatious supermodels, the work industry requires a tough and outspoken personality, and society in general seems to despise the words grace and dignity. But we can’t afford to let this stop us any longer!

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—  rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

When we obey God’s word we will be blessed. We need to have faith that if we wave goodbye to the 21st Century culture, God will reward us. We can trust Him because at one time, he too was tempted with the things of the world. (Matt 4)

Satan took Jesus up to a high mountain and showed him “all the kingdoms of the world and their glory.” Satan tempted Jesus and said he would give all of this to Him if Jesus fell down to worship him. But Jesus refused and said “Away with you, Satan! For it is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.’”

Why did Jesus refuse everything the world had to offer? He did it for you. He loved you and knew that you would need a Savior, not another worldly role model. He chose death on a cross, the perfect act of True Love, so that you might be with Him in heaven.

We can do the same! We need to do the same, for the sake of our family, our future family, our grandchildren and our great grandchildren. Jesus sacrificed for others and we can do the same. We need to be the ones to step up and say “No”. We must become the inspiration for biblical femininity in our sisters, friends and community. I hope this inspires you! We can make a difference if we follow Christ’s example and become strong enough to defy the ways of the world-then honorable women will be REMEMBERED!

Thanks for reading; I will be praying for you!



  • I love this! I choose to try my hardest to be a true woman and to raise my own daughter with these same standards!

  • Valicia

    Thank you for saying what so many woman don’t say. It is so true, society has become corrupted with a false sense of womanhood. The only way to turn it around is to start with you. I have a beautiful little girl and even though I shouldn’t fear. I find myself alot thinking about the type of woman God wants me to raise her as and how will I be able to do what he expects of me. It sometimes feel like going up against an entire army. Its everywhere: tv, radio, magazines etc. I have to try and be that example she doesn’t see anywhere else. Kind regards. V

  • Thank you so much for this!

  • A Fan, with caveats

    I like your blog, but this just isn’t correct. I went to public school, and we certainly learned far more about Joan of Arc, Anne Frank, Florence Nightengale, and Clara Barton, than Margaret Sanger. However, the point of the quote that well behaved women rarely make history is that from history women who are known are usually known because of their convictions.

    Joan of Arc certainly wasn’t well-behaved. She had convictions and behaved in a way that women did not at that time. Florence Nightengale and Clara Barton also followed their hearts to do things that were morally right, but certainly not engaged in by many women of their day. Likewise, we also learned in school about Susan B. Anthony and other suffragettes who campaigned to earn the right for women to vote. Many women who have chosen to follow their convictions were certainly radical for their time. Sometimes, being moral IS radical.

    Historically, the women that this saying centered upon, were motivated by their convictions and morals. In public school, I learned about Harriett Beecher Stowe, Dorthea Dix, Queen Victoria, Helen Keller, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, Bertha, baroness von Suttner, Pocahontas, Queen Isabella of Spain, Sojourner Truth, Abigail Adams, Flannery O’Connor – these are just a few of the women who followed their convictions, and yes – were brave, noble, and virtuous. They were also sometimes independent and outspoken. And other times, they were meek and selfless.

    Being a woman of morals and convictions in this day and age sometimes does require you to be outspoken, to be radical, and to go against the sea of society. But there are many women who did just that in history that I learned about in public school. Sometimes, to “behave” as society would prefer you to do, means to go against your convictions. To buck that, to live consistently with one’s morals, sometimes means that you have to misbehave. And it’s women like that who make history. THAT is the point of that quote. To do as you cite about would require you to misbehave in the eyes of society – but perhaps that notice will create change, and history will remember you.

    • Thank you for commenting! And while I fully agree with you, the point of the article was not on who schools teach about. It was about becoming a woman of God in a fallen generation.Thank you for sharing your thoughts! God bless,

  • Esther Jumba

    awesome this just made my day
    I woul also like to ask about the role of women in leadership because I was reading from 1 Timothy 2:9-15 and it was not as clear and if you could please help I would really appreciate
    God bless you.

  • Sister in Christ

    Hello Lisa, I hope this finds you well and growing in The Lord! I have some thoughts on your post that I hope will be relevant. I think when talking about Godly womanhood it’s important to remember that Godly woman come in all shapes, sizes, and from all walks of life. For example, a Godly woman may have 10 children if she may have two. She may need to work outside the home if there was illness or an unexpected accident in the family. She may be a missionary wife, or she may minister to her next door neighbors. She may be college educated and teach and encourage other women (such as Elisabeth Elliott does). She may wear ankle length skirts or jeans. She may not live in the prettiest or nicest neighborhood. She may be young (as you mentioned) or she may be an elderly woman. She might have a career, and witness to people everyday, from behind her desk. She might homeschool her children or send them to school. Godly women have in common the presence of God in their lives. They ask for forgiveness from their sin and believe in Jesus’ atoning death and resurrection. Godly women speak kindly of their husbands (if they have them), their families and each other, and the fruit of the Spirit is visible in every Godly woman’s life. Godly women are industrious (both inside and outside the home, like the Proverbs 31 woman.

    This probably all sounds familiar! I want to add that Ecclesiastes reminds us that, “There is nothing new under the sun.” It is no harder to be a woman of God today than it was thousands of years ago. It’s tempting to think that if we could only get back to another era of morals or social norms, our problems would be fixed, and we’d be on the path of righteousness. But that isn’t so. In any time, Jesus is the only answer – he’s the only answer to sin, and the world was just as rotten and full of distractions for Godly women in Jesus’ time as it is now. Ever since Eve (and Adam) disobeyed God, we’ve been sinners who needed forgiveness. We can lament the world around us, but immorality has always been rampant, and the lies of the devil have always been prevalent. Our technology or our culture does not give us new ways to sin or turn from God – I know if looks that way, but women, in every time I history, need the transformative work of a relationship with Jesus to become Godly women.

    Hope this gives you some good things to think about.

  • Thank you so much for this Lisa x x x

  • Shanae Butterworth

    Just recently found this site! Those bumper stickers bother me too. For a long time I thought I was the only one who felt that way. We need to remember good women more! It’s hard when a woman is looked down on and considered less than because she acts like or lives her life as a lady instead of today’s world definition of what a woman should be. Thanks for posting this!