True Love Waits…


True Love Waits…

As I sat down to write this article after praying I glanced down at my fingers resting on the keys of my little red laptop. My eyes glanced at the tiny silver ring that wrapped around my ring finger. I have had this ring since I was 13. It’s a purity ring. Inscribed on the silver are three simple and life changing words. “True Love Waits”. The entire time I wore this ring up until 4 days ago I always thought that it meant you save your first kiss for your wedding day or you save your sexual purity for your wedding night. (And in a way it does mean that, but I came to realize that it has a double meaning as well!) Four days ago I thought long and hard about what the words really mean.

God gently revealed to me that what “True Love Waits” really means is that you love your future spouse enough to trust your future and your hopes and dreams into God’s all powerful and sovereign Hands. You love your future spouse enough to wait patiently for him and in the mean time, surrender your desires and longings to Jesus for protection. It can be hard to let go of your future and slip it into the hands of an unseen God. But, the unseen God is not an unknown God. He is the perfect Daddy. The most amazing guardian and the best friend a girl could ever ask for.

When we worry about our future, it is in fact an act of distrust in God. We are secretly unhappy and discontent with where God has us and with what He has us doing. And that is defying Him and His plan for you. Believe me, the moment you let go of your will and the way you want things to be, God will bless you. He will open so many more doors to unknown blessings than you ever thought possible.

Corrie ten Boom wrote the most amazing quote in her book once. She says, “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ― Corrie ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

Not trusting God and worrying about the future opens doors to discontentment and unguarded thoughts. As girls, we can come up with so many romantic notions. We can plan the man we want to marry. We can picture the way he asks us on our first date. We can even plan what type of character, facial expressions and style he will have (Come on, you know you do it).

But God has the perfect man picked out for you.

When He was creating your future husband in his mother’s womb, God was thinking of you. And when God was creating you, He was thinking of all the ways that you would complete your future beloved and vice versa. Sometimes the men we meet or who God has planned for us since the beginning of time are the total opposite of the guy that we had created in our mind. That’s why it is so dangerous to make our own plans. We might miss out on God’s best for us because all we can think of is what we want, what we need, and what we have dreamed of all this time.

I love this quote, it’s so true: “Don’t compare your Love Story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by scriptwriters. Yours was written by God.”  -Unknown

So, you’re waiting to fall in love, get engaged, go on dates and hopefully marry the man of your dreams. So far, maybe that hasn’t happened. You’re still waiting and time is still ticking. Day to day life becomes boring and monotonous and you wonder if you will ever get to experience the love that so many movies and Facebook relationships portray. I know exactly how you feel because I’ve had the same thoughts and feelings that every Christian “single” girl has had.

But I have realized something (Or rather God has revealed it to me), I’m going to let you in on a secret. Ready? –> You don’t have to sit around wondering about, dreaming of and planning for the day you will fall in love and begin a relationship with someone. God can use you in any area of your life, including your years of singleness. Just think of Mary-she was preparing her whole life (unawares) for her calling to be the mother of Jesus. What about Ruth? After her husband died, she was single and living with her mother in law! She got busy and went to work to serve and bless Naomi instead of mourning and waiting around for when her life would begin again. God blessed her with an awesome man of God! It was the same with Esther, Rachel, and Rebecca. Read their stories in the Bible.

All this to say that while you’re single, you could be preparing for your life as a future wife. Start learning about how to take care of the bills, shopping, making appointments, cooking, and cleaning, ect. Fill your life with things that take your eyes off of yourself and your circumstance and surround yourself with encouraging friends. You can choose to pine over the day that you will meet the Mr. Awesome, or you can allow God to use you for His glory. Let go of your longings and desires and let Him mold you and shape you into the woman you were destined to be from the very beginning.

By staying busy you are crowding out the thoughts of doubt, discontentment and romanticized dreams that will ultimately hurt you and your future husband.

Girls, I would like to present a challenge for you. Let’s call it The True Love Waits Challenge. Here it is:

Place a stack of pretty paper next to your bed tonight. Every morning when you wake up, take a piece of paper and write down one Godly character quality on it. A few examples would be “Patience, Honor, Humility, Forgiveness, Grace, Nobility, ect.” Write it down on your paper and pray that character quality over your life AND over your future husband’s life.

(A fun idea would be to take a picture of the paper with your phone and upload it to your favorite social network with the hashtag #TrueLoveWaitsChallenge *example pictured below*)

By doing this, you are surrendering your time, your dreams and hopes of the future to God and learning and growing through your time of being single. It’s all in your thoughts and state of mind! Don’t think about being “single” as a bad thing! It’s a beautiful time of it being just you and God and no one else to interrupt your time with Jesus! 😉

Let’s start challenging each other to a higher standard of living by choosing joy instead of sorrow, contentment instead of discontentment, and surrender instead of free will. God will see your heart and your efforts as “pleasing and acceptable in the sight of the Lord”. Don’t give up on doing good.

Sure waves of discontentment and fear of the future will creep in but you can battle them in the strength of Jesus. You can fight, and you WILL WIN! If you accepted The True Love Waits Challenge then comment below! I look forward to your responses. God bless!

~Lisa

“Don’t excite love. Don’t stir it up until the time is ripe and you are ready.” Song of Solomon 8:4

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  • AJ

    This post was amazing! I will most definitely be doing the True Love Waits challenge 🙂 God bless you and this wonderful website.

  • Wow, awesome post and very applicable to men as well. Thanks for sharing.

  • I like this! :~D Thank you! <3

  • How beautiful it is to live your “single” years all for God now! A good idea is to write down a “husband profile” list of what you want in a spouse (kindness, gentleness, self-control, ect.) and strive to be that person. Thanks for your words of encouragement! I will definitely be doing the True Love Waits challenge.

  • Amen sister Lisa– I Love this 🙂 God knows BEST & has the perfect timing for everything. “Love is Patient, Love is Kind” ~1 Corinthians 13:4 <3

  • Marlies

    This is so cool, I am happy and content Thank you

  • Is is great! I love it! Thank you for posting!

  • A Sister in Christ

    Hi Lisa, I don’t know on which hand you wear your purity ring, and I think purity rings can be wonderful, visible reminders of a commitment to a life that waits for God and his best, as you said. I came across a suggestion the other day from a young Christian man and I wanted to share it here: sometimes a purity ring can cause a guy to think you’re engaged, or perhaps, married. If a purity ring is worn on the ring finger of the left hand, no matter how simple and unadorned it is, it can look like an engagement or wedding ring. Any young man who’s serving God is not going to approach a young woman whom he believes is already in a relationship! He’s going to respect that young woman, and not ask to get to know her better. (Of course there are logical arguments to this – a young man who is already friends with a young woman will know whether she’s attached or not.) Just remember, guys feel intimidated easily. A thoughtful, gracious, intelligent young woman with a heart for Christ can easily intimidate a guy a little – and that’s not bad! It means he has to muster up his courage to get to know her. It means she’s valuable and he knows he’s going after a person who has value, so he has to take those risky steps. For all of the young in married readers here, consider wearing your purity ring on your right hand, or perhaps, not on your wedding ring finger. (And don’t worry, if you’ve worn your purity ring on your wedding finger for years or decide to continue, that’s totally fine. Nothing can stand in the way of God’s sovereign plan for your life!)

  • A Sister in Christ

    I apologize, towards the end, where it says “in married,” that was supposed to be “UNmarried” 🙂

  • A Sister in Christ

    Well, now it just doesn’t make sense at all! Lol. I wrote
    a post encouraging young women to consider wearing their purity ring on their right hand or at least not on their wedding finger. I heard from a young Christian guy, who’d love to find a young Christian woman to pursue courtship with, that he often thinks a woman may be engaged or married – no matter how simple the ring is. No Christian guy worth his salt will make an attempt to get to know a young woman better if he thinks she’s already attached! (Don’t worry if you have been wearing your purity ring on your wedding finger, or even if you continue to do so – nothing can mess up God’s sovereign plan for your life!)

  • Kayla French

    I love this! For a year now I have been writing qualities and characteristics down and putting them into a small box that I pray over when I wake up and when I lay down at night! It’s amazing to know that others are doing the same thing!

  • Susanna

    Beautiful post! Thank you for sharing it! 🙂

  • very inspiring, very blessing 🙂
    thank you very much! do you mind if I reblog this post in my Tumblr blog? I will put the credit in it. Thank you before 🙂

  • i love this

  • Yamico Tembo

    amen! 🙂 true love waits, ChallengedAccepted#..