Be the Influence Instead of Being Influenced

Be the Influence Instead of Being Influenced

The other day I was listening to a conversation between my youngest sister and youngest brother. As I sat there (harmlessly) listening to this conversation I heard my sister mimic something I had said earlier that day. I had no idea that Cali had been in the room when I said it but apparently she was and had just repeated me. Same tone of voice and everything!

This got me thinking. It just goes to show how easily young people pick up on things so small and insignificant to an adult but mind-blowingly shocking/convicting when coming from a 10 year old. I began thinking back to what I learned when I was younger from those who were older than me. I learned a lot. And not very many of the things I learned are something I am proud of today!

Let me present a mind quiz for you real quick.


Think back to the last time you had some time alone-all to yourself and try to answer these questions in your mind (truthfully please):

  • What did you spend your time doing?
  • What did you look at?
  • What did you think about?
  • Would you do the same thing(s) if there was an 8 year old by your side the whole time?
  • Would you do the same thing(s) if Jesus was in the same room, sitting with you the whole time?

Jesus said in Matthew 18:6 that “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”

Jesus was serious when it came to harming His children. He is serious when it comes to you being harmed and pulled away from Himself and His Word too.

We are to be the example to the children/teens/peers around us. We need to take our example of Christ’s Bride extremely serious. What do you think is being taught to our generation today? Think about the schools, think about the media, and think about the culture. What is being fed to you on a daily basis? Well, the kids around you are a lot more susceptible to the influence of the world because they are younger and more vulnerable; the last thing they need is another worldly-minded person to look up too.

We should take up our responsibility as examples to the younger generation with enthusiasm and pride. You are a shining light in the dark. A city on a hill. A generation builder. A culture influencer. Don’t let our culture and society influence or define you. Defy your peers who want to drag you down and make you one of them. Stand up to the crowd. Flip the mindset that says you are pressured by the world! You be the influencer. You can set the new standard for society. How does that famous quote by Gandhi go? (Come on you know it!) “Be the change you want to see in the world”.

Instead of accepting the 21st century ways as the “norm” and complying with the ways of the world, you can influence the crowd. You can. You can start in your home, in your church, with your friends and even go beyond that.

The little 13 year old girl in your church will be an 18 year old soon. What will she look/be like then? What influence will you have had on her life?

When we take into consideration the lives and futures of the younger people it helps us re-evaluate our actions and behaviors in the present time because of the influence we have on their lives. You can choose to look the other way and live your life the way you want to and just forget about the younger generation, but remember they are the up and coming generation of young people. (It’s kind of a scary thought)

What will you do to contribute to the influence on our younger people? Will you, like Jesus, die to self and take your Christ-exemplifying role model position seriously and strive to point others to Christ? Or will you ignore the calling and go with the tide of your peers?

Romans 12:1-2 says this:

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

When we refuse to be conformed to the world we are being conformed to Christ’s image and therefore becoming a living sacrifice and servant to and for others. This is how we will change the world. Here are 3 ways to combat the ways of the world and become an example to those around you and those younger than you.

  1. Get a New Identity. When you accepted Christ into your heart you were given a new identity. You were covered by Jesus blood and bought with His love for you. You are highly valued and loved. When you make this your identity you become secure in your calling and no longer need people’s acceptance and approval to feel good about yourself. By having this security in your identity you can choose to separate or pull away from conforming to the world. In doing so, your life will be a shining example to all who see you.
  2. Be a Student of the Word. Become a student of the Bible. Try to read at least one or more chapters in your Bible every day. Underline verses that stand out to you and write them down. Dig into the Word and listen for God’s voice. Do this every day. Don’t get caught off guard by the devil. It’s important to keep your sword with you and knowing the Word of God is the best way to stay walking in the Spirit on a daily basis. This will not only keep your eyes open to recognizing the devils temptations of the world but it will inspire you to encourage and bless others in the way of the Lord.
  3. Pay Attention to Others. When you are in a public place or event be sure to keep your eyes and heart open. Try to see how others are doing. Make yourself available to others by being kind, outgoing and talkative. If you see someone who might need an encouraging word in their day walk up to them and be a blessing. Don’t only pay attention to yourself and your friends. Be there for others just like Jesus. Also, don’t forget to do the same thing at home with your family. They are the most important people to be an example to.

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.” 1 John 2:15-17

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope you will take on the challenge to influence the world instead of being influenced by it. I would love to hear your thoughts on this issue! Leave your comments in the box below.

Thank you and God bless!


  • Jessica

    Thanks so much for this article, Lisa! It was really fitting for me at this point in my life. I have a new job and I’m trying to learn how to be a light to those around me. Also I have a couple of young girls who look up to me and I want to set a good example to them! Thanks again!

  • Brittany Wellington

    Love the practical application. Right on.

  • Faith

    I have four little sisters so this was a great reminder to me to be more conscious of what I say & do around them! Because they’re always there, I forget how much of an influence I am/can be. Thank you so much for this article!! I really needed the reminder to be more proactive in the kind of influence I am to them & others! 🙂