Heartbreak hurts terribly. I never realized just how much though until it happened to me for the first time just a little over a month ago. Before that I had always just thought that it was a figure of speech. I didn’t know that it really does make your heart hurt physically and emotionally with grieving. And that is why I am writing this post because I want to be able to share my story with those of you ladies who have experienced something similar recently and to give some comfort and advice to those of you who might be hurting as well.
My heartbreak came because I fell in love with a really sweet Christian guy who was kind and friendly to me and we opened up our hearts to each other and spent a lot of time hanging out with one another at different events with friends. I thought that he liked me back the way I did him. But I was wrong. I let myself get too excited over the whole thing when nothing had happened yet. I thought about how wonderful it would be if God let something more then friendship come out of our relationship that had started over the summer.
But God said no and let that door shut. When October rolled around I got sad news from a friend of mine…the guy I liked had gotten a girlfriend. He’d chosen someone else and not me. I was so sad and upset about it. When I heard the news I started crying hard and went down on my knees. My heart felt like someone had just come and smashed it. “oh Jesus, Help! It hurts!” I said as I cried out to God.
God brought healing for me though and helped me in a lot of different ways though including some unexpected ones. One of the biggest was that He had the young man that I had liked come to me all of his own accord and talk with me. He asked my forgiveness for leading me on and told me that he was sorry that he had not been honest with me about what his intentions were. I forgave him immediately because I still love him as my friend and brother in Christ and we both agreed that neither of us wanted to lose each others friendship over the whole thing.
My parents, siblings, Aunt and Uncle, and friends came around me and comforted me in every way they could with kind words, hugs, encouragement, prayers and good advice. They helped me get through a very painful time as I cried and grieved all month long.
The Lord also kept me really busy with school work, a trip out of town, and just daily life, chores, and family so that I was distracted and not just thinking about it the whole time.
One night while reading my Bible I asked God to show me verses that would comfort me and when I flipped to the book of Psalms this is the first one I saw:
“The Lord is near to those to have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit.” Psalm 34:18
And also these two as well kept coming to mind:
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
“Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5
I have also had to remember that God has it all worked out and has something different and better in store for me instead. But when you’re feeling sad it’s oftentimes hard to remember that He will bring the right person along for me in HIS own perfect timing but I know that he will anyway. I need only to trust Him and let Him take care of it and my heart.
God also reminded me of something even more important then that though not too long after everything had happened….that His love would and should always be enough. No matter what happened here on earth, no matter who I married in the future, or if perhaps for some reason he never allowed me to get married He needed to be first in my life before anyone else and would always love me more then any other person on earth possibly could. It was during worship at Youth Group that the song “Enough” was being played and these words from it were my prayer that night:
“All of You is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with Your love
And all I have in You is more than enough”
“Dear Jesus,” I prayed, “let your love always be enough for me.”
So my advice is to all of you who have gone through a a heartbreak recently cling to Jesus and ask Him to help your heart and get through it. Because he is right there beside you and will help you. Talk to your mom, other Christian ladies, and godly friends who have gone through something similar for advice and comfort. Keep working, learning, and serving others. And do not give up hope and think that love can’t or won’t come again to you. If God means for you and me to get married then he will bring the perfect man along for us that he has had picked out for us before we were even born.
I hope that this post has been a little bit of help. If you want someone to talk with or need prayers feel free to leave comments for me or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll try to respond as best I can. God bless you ladies and remember how much you are loved by Him!