Have you ever wondered what true, lasting love looks and feels like? Maybe you are in a relationship that you think is not “living up to its true potential”. Maybe you need an example of real love to know if this is the guy for you; if he is the one that God has called you to marry.
We know that no one is perfect but don’t let that be your excuse to stay in a relationship with someone who might not be the one for you. Here are just a few ways that you should be able to tell that this man truly, really loves you like Christ loved the church.
I believe everyone has one great love in their life; an unexplainable, undeniable, unrepeatable love that can only fall short of the ONE greatest act of true love that this world will ever witness (Jesus’ sacrifice of His life for yours). The man who captures your heart will know you and will know your soul and he will love every single thing about you.
Second to God, you should be everything to him; nothing else in the world besides Jesus and family should matter.
Not his job, not his friends, not his career, not his own accomplishments and hobbies, nothing else would come close to the joy that he would have if you were that one girl (though all of those things are very important he won’t be as concerned with them if he is truly, really, completely in love).
He would sacrifice these things to spend time with you, getting to know you, learning how to love you. Don’t just try to make it work with someone.
Love should not be forced or have to work hard at falling in love with another individual.
Don’t just do all the right things, say all the right words, and stay together in all the right ways. There must be a real and lasting FOUNDATION to your love.
Ask yourselves this question: Does he know me? Do I know him? And vice versa.
Someday, someone will come along and you will outright, unashamedly love that person.
He will make you forget about your present life and will sweep you off your feet. You will want to make a life together and you will be oblivious to everything that stands in the pathway of your love for each other. Everyone else around you will dim in comparison to seeing his face in the room. And you will not want to leave his side for a moment. And he will not leave yours.
You will love each other and no matter what life throws your way-it would be a small set back in the light of your love because you will have each other; and that would be enough.
You may think it’s impossible to feel that way for someone. You may think everything that I’ve just said is a silly fantasy and wishful thinking. But it’s not. God will bring this into your life if you fully surrender everything you have just to be His. You will fall in love with Jesus. And when you enter a relationship with the person of His dreams for you the two of you won’t ever want to stop talking about your love for each other and about the love of the One who brought you together.
It will be a 3 way relationship between you, your loved one, and Jesus Christ. Love will conquer any pit fall the devil sends your way. Love will overcome any difference or struggle between you and with other issues.
Your love for each other will be beyond priceless. It will be real, it will be stronger than anything else you’ve ever known, and it will be forever because Jesus was at the center of it all.
Most importantly, this young man and young woman who are together will be together under God. They will diligently lead each other’s hearts closer to the Heart of Jesus. They will not be selfish and spend time together solely for the purpose of “fun”. They will encourage one another to grow in the ways of the Lord.
God says he blesses those who love Him with good things-for the glorification of HIS name and for “His names sake” (PS. 23) He brings you into a good and healthy, godly relationship for a purpose just like He brings other things into your life for a purpose. And that purpose is always to bring glory to Him.
Will you bring Jesus glory through your relationship by honoring Him and the elders He’s placed in both of your lives? Always at the forefront of every godly relationship Jesus should come first and foremost in both of your lives. Though you are together you are to have your personal and private relationship with Jesus. Talk about your Savior when you are together and learn about Him together, yes. But always spend time alone seeking and putting God above everything in your life-including your loved one.
When you first became a Christian and were loyally, unregrettably tied to Eternity with your Savior you felt a fire in your heart. When you read about what Jesus did for you on the cross you feel an undefined gratitude and love for your sweet, sweet Jesus.
“We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19
This is what real, true love feels like.
Romantic love for the earthly one your soul will find will only be an inkling of how much Jesus loves you.
We will never fully comprehend how much He loves us but we get a taste of it when we search for Jesus with all of our heart, soul and mind. And when we do this-HE will give us someone to share that love with.
Hopefully this will help you discern if the boy you love, really is the “ONE”. Compare the way he treats you to the way Jesus would treat you and ask yourself if he shows you real Agape love.
Ready to answer some questions to put things into perspective? Great!
- Have you ever felt loved with agape love from someone besides Jesus? If so who?
- If you are in a relationship is it for the purpose of glorifying your Father in heaven?
- Do you spend time in prayer and worship together?
- Will you give up idols so that only Jesus remains? Are you willing to do this?
- Have you ever experienced Gods love in your life? If so, tell us about it!
I look forward to reading your replies! Thank you for taking the time to read this. God bless!