Just a few days ago we celebrated Valentines Day. It’s a great day to show your friends and family how much you love them. But if you are a single girl, it’s a also a day that maybe might have made you feel a little left out or lonely when you see other couples being sweet to each other. You might be wishing that someone loved you like that and wondering when they were going to come along.
So many people that I know, including my myself, desire to be a wife and mom more than anything else in our lives. We want to fall in love with a godly, handsome, amazing man, get married to him, and raise children. In fact, it’s a really great thing that we want to do that because the Bible says that it is a good thing and something that God naturally created in us to want to do.
But we also have to remember that ultimately it’s going to be up to God when all those things happen. Sometimes He has asked godly women throughout history to be missionaries and never marry. Other times godly women I know have had to wait several years into their adult life before God brought their husband along. And some are still waiting. While still others have gotten married when they were only 18 or 19 years old or in their early twenties and have gotten to start families right away.
My point though, is that at some point or time in our lives we are all going to be single.
Maybe you are in your teens and are too young to date or be in a courtship yet. Maybe you just became an adult and God is only going to have you wait a year or two before he brings your spouse along. Or maybe He has other plans and other work for you to do and it will be several years before you marry.
So the question is how should we view this time in our lives when we don’t have anyone that we are going to marry? This is important, because, the attitude we have about it and how we respond to it is going to affect the decisions we make right now. How should we view being single and what should we be doing with that time?
Believe it or not, as a single girl we have an incredible window of time that God can take and use for His glory. Since we are unattached we have the freedom to serve others wherever we want to, learn new skills, travel to new places, tell others about Christ around the world, bless our family and friends with help that we can give them and be an encouragement to others.
Here is what the Bible says about being a single girl: “There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married cares for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. ” 1 Corinthians 7:34 KJV
When we are single our main focus is to be on serving the Lord. And then, when we get married God wants our focus to be on serving and pleasing our husbands and taking care of our children because that serves and please Him as well!
Instead of viewing singleness as a time of loneliness or boredom we can view it as a time of opportunity to grow closer to God and to our families.
Where I live, I know of a few different ladies in their late twenties and early thirties who are still unmarried. They are all lovely, godly women who God just hasn’t brought husbands too yet. And these ladies are amazing! They set such a good example to other single, young gals of how we should be while we are still not married.
Instead of wasting away time, these gals are busy serving their churches, communities and the world. They are a huge blessing to the youth in the valley as they work at the local camps, group home, and youth groups. They go on mission trips both in the US and in other countries. They babysit and help the other moms in the area with their kids.
Right now I am single too. I don’t have anyone who I am interested in marrying. God hasn’t brought the right one along yet. But I know that His plans are higher then my plans and ways. I only just became an adult last year so I know that it could be just a few years before I marry or many. But I am also finding that I have gotten to do and try a lot of new and exciting things right now in this part of my life.
I have also gotten to make new friends and meet new people. I have also been blessed to find that I have been able to be a help and blessing to others right now. Both really fun things and hard things have happened but God has used them all to teach me important life lessons and draw me closer to Him. And this coming summer I am going to have the amazing opportunity of getting to be a counselor for the local Christian summer horse camp.
Wherever you are at in your life right now I hope that this article will be an encouragement to you! Pray and ask God what he desires to have happening in your life right now while you are single and seek Him. Find ways to bless your family and friends and serve. Make the most of the time that you are given. It’s true that God might want you to be single and serve Him like that for a long time or it could be just a few short months or years before he blesses you with a husband.
I hope that you ladies all have a blessed week!