What Makes You Beautiful Instead of “Hot”

What Makes You Beautiful Instead of “Hot”

Beautiful is a powerful word that I feel like a lot of people just throw around. Beautiful should be a word that is used only when truly deeming. Beautiful is something that you just can’t describe in words or looks. It has to be the moment, the heart, and the soul of what is truly beautiful. It’s underneath. Not outward.

I believe that there are a lot of good looking women in the world. But good looking and beautiful are two completely different things. I also believe that everyone has beautiful qualities deep down but the women who know how to express them daily and lovingly are the women and girls who I define as beautiful.

What makes a girl beautiful instead of just “hot”? 


Character is another word which is often tossed around yet easily overlooked. Not many girls have a beautiful character these days. One who loves others, cares about people, wants to make others feel loved, notices the needs of others and is quick to care for them. She also has a gift for making others feel accepted and care free-meaning that she doesn’t judge them or act prideful around them. She knows that she is a human and that there are more people in the world besides herself.

When she meets people she takes the time to spend quality time getting to know them-not sharing very much about herself but allowing the other person to talk while she intentionally listens. She goes out of her way to make others feel loved.


A beautiful girl has a personality that does not try to overshadow others but does not hide in the background either. She is confident but not boastful. She recognizes that she is beautiful inwardly and outwardly and chooses to shine. But on the flip-side she realizes that she is not the only person who has a great personality so she does not flaunt herself.

She has many characteristics that attribute to her personality that she uses to get others to feel engaged. She makes others laugh, she makes them comfortable and she chooses to be the person that everyone can go to for help. She does not look down on others who haven’t fully developed and outstanding personality, instead, she chooses to help them form one.


A beautiful girl has a beautiful soul. Because Jesus radiates in her there will always be something about her that attracts everyone to her. Not her looks. Not her laugh. Not her voice. But something that comes from within that is a gift from God. It’s her soul. The soul that knows that she was once dark but now clean. The soul that loves deeply and is loved deeper still.

There will always be hot girls in the world, but the beautiful ones are fading. What makes a girl truly beautiful is her heart. Her caring spirit, her willingness to make others feel worthwhile while not making them feel less than.

I am sure you’ve experienced a girl who looked really pretty but made you feel worse about yourself. But have you ever met a girl who was pretty inwardly and made you feel treasured?

Maybe God is calling you to be that beautiful girl who goes out of her way to help other people feel beautiful.

There is no magic cure to make people super attractive. They say beauty is found in the eyes of the beholder. You want a “beholder” who loves God and will see the love of God in you. And that will be more beautiful to him than any clothing brand, hair product and beauty formula. It will be real And that is what will last.

I love this quote by Elisabeth Elliot about being a real woman who is truly beautiful inside and out:

“To me, a lady is not frilly, flouncy, flippant, frivolous and fluff-brained, but she is gentle, she is gracious, she is godly and she is giving. You and I have the gift of femininity… the more womanly we are, the more manly men will be and the more God is glorified. Be women, be only women, be real women in obedience to God.”

― Elisabeth Elliot

What does the word beautiful mean to you?
What defines a beautiful woman?

Thank you for taking the time to read this!

Lisa Sig.1





  • Bonnie Smithies

    This was beautiful.

    • Lisa Hallahan

      Thank you Bonnie! <3

  • For me, it’s a combination of natural good looks, of course, but also character: a woman who has virtues is the most beautiful thing ever!

  • Gabby Knight

    I truly agree with you! i loved this article, it has such great truth and meaning. Im going to work hard to try to be a beautiful woman.

  • Hope N. Tabing

    Thank you for this beautiful thought. God be praised!