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The Past 100 Years of Beauty and How it Affects You

The Past 100 Years of Beauty and How it Affects You

My dad and I were catching a quick breakfast before heading into work. We were at the checkout counter in a local bakery waiting to pay our bill. The waitress walked up to the counter and stopped dead in her tracks. She looked me up and down and said, “You are freakishly tall!”

I stood there absolutely stunned.

I had no idea how to respond to that. I know that at 6’ 1” I’m on the taller side, but I’ve never been called “freakishly tall.”

I decided to just smile nicely and say, “Yeah . . . I am really tall . . .ha ha.” Awkward.

What Does Perfect Look Like?

When someone calls a girl freakish, it kind of makes her stop and think. And that’s exactly what it did to me.

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Modesty Part 2: Men

Modesty Part 2: Men

It’s likely that you’ve been told before that you should dress modestly to help the men in your life not lust.  I know I was told was that if I was wearing something that was too “revealing,” men would just be picturing me naked automatically.  It was presented to me as a reaction that they couldn’t help but have.  So, if I didn’t want men picturing me naked, I needed to make sure they didn’t..

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How to Help Hurting Friends

How to Help Hurting Friends

Recently, while online, I came across a quote that someone shared that struck as being right on. The quote did not have an author but it said this “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” This is so very true! During our lives we all go through hard or difficult seasons where everything around seems to crumbling at times and we feel lost, lonely, or hurt. We..

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What Makes You Beautiful Instead of “Hot”

What Makes You Beautiful Instead of “Hot”

Beautiful is a powerful word that I feel like a lot of people just throw around. Beautiful should be a word that is used only when truly deeming. Beautiful is something that you just can’t describe in words or looks. It has to be the moment, the heart, and the soul of what is truly beautiful. It’s underneath. Not outward.

I believe that there are a lot of good looking women in the world. But..

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What Christian Guys Think Of Flirting

What Christian Guys Think Of Flirting

If you’re like me, you want to “crack the code.” What do guys—particularly Christian guys—think of flirting? I asked some godly guys I know, and here’s what they had to say. (Something I learned from their input: it doesn’t take much to get their attention!)

Interest in flirts is fleeting. Attention for girls who don’t flirt starts slow but lasts. Even flirting guys respect girls who don’t.

Love and pursue Jesus as your number one priority, and guys who want a godly wife will notice. But that’s not really a good reason to pursue Jesus . . . it’s just a side benefit. —Ben

Don’t be afraid to be friendly to a guy you may be interested in. Nothing wrong with making conversation and being cordial. Don’t get carried away, and don’t over-think everything. —Mat

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Is Modest Truly Hottest? From a Guy’s Perspective

Is Modest Truly Hottest? From a Guy’s Perspective

Rhymes don’t always chime…err…a rhyme isn’t true all the time…umm…living by rhymes can result in fines?

Okay, those are all lame. Allow me to just use blunt prose. Is modest truly “hottest” as the catchy expression goes? Actually, no. Not at all.

I’ve always had a couple major issues with this slogan, and I don’t think it actually helps cultivate true Biblical modesty.

By definition, modest..

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A Letter To My Twelve-Year-Old Self

A Letter To My Twelve-Year-Old Self

June fifteenth of this year marked my eighteenth birthday. By God’s grace, I’ve successfully circled the sun enough times that I’m considered an adult.

When I was twelve I was encouraged by the leader of my Bright Lights group to write a letter to my future self. It’s funny to see how dreams can change over the years. I wanted to share with you the letter I wrote, and a response I wrote to my twelve-year-old self.
Sometimes it’s encouraging to look back and see that some things really do work out how you hoped. And at the same time, the things that don’t turn out how you want them to are God’s way of saying He has something else planned for you.

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The Land of the Free Woman?

The Land of the Free Woman?

The Fourth of July is tomorrow! When we, as a country celebrate our independence. Our freedom. Our country. But something got me thinking about how our country expresses our freedom. In some ways we express our freedom through love, through religion and other ways that represent good morale. But for the most part, I think America expresses it’s freedom with an arrogant, headstrong selfish attitude.

One of the most prominent ways America expresses its freedom is through feminism. Feminists have such a huge megaphone right now and they use it in any way they can to shovel their ideas and lifestyles down this country’s throat. I know that that is a very strong statement but I feel like it is no longer the “Land of the Free”, or the “Home of the Brave”. I think it is the Land of the Free Woman and the Home of the Feminist.

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Obsessed With Your Own Beauty

Obsessed With Your Own Beauty

I am obsessed with my looks. There, I said it.

Not the type of obsessed that I can’t pass a mirror or other reflective surface without checking myself out. I’m not arrogant in that I think I’m so beautiful that I simply must have another look at myself. I don’t take selfies anywhere and everywhere and scatter them throughout various outlets of social media. I don’t make selfie books for my husband, Kim Kardashian-style. But I’m obsessed with certain aspects of my appearance.

I don’t quite know how or when this “obsession” started, but I suspect it had something at least in part to do with an unkind boyfriend I had my freshman year of college. Though I was 5’ 7” and maybe 110 pounds on a water-retention kind of day, he made the remark at some point that I could “stand to lose a little weight.” For someone who’d endured some hurtful comments about my looks (something about me not being as pretty as other girls) early in my youth, I had already suffered a few dings to my self-esteem, so this jab about my weight was particularly stabbing and I took it straight to the heart.

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10 Cool Ways to Minister to Friends

10 Cool Ways to Minister to Friends

Friends are awesome. I hope that everyone has at least one, true, amazing friend that they stay in contact with for their whole lives. I have been blessed to meet so many different people from different stages of my life. My family moved a lot. And I mean A LOT! I’ve met so many amazing people and each group of friends that I’ve had have ministered to me for the specific time of life I was experiencing at that time.

Having friends should inspire us to be good friends to the people in our lives in return. Growing up, I couldn’t wait to start driving and asking friends to meet me places so that we could talk about our lives and about the Lord. Ministering to friends and encouraging them in the Lord is one of the most special, genuine, things you can do for your friendships.

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