Godly Womanhood in the 21st Century

Godly Womanhood in the 21st Century

The 21st century. It’s all lights, women, movies, drama, world corruption and drugs. Business and cooperate offices are run and managed by men and women who are less than moral. Our teenagers are living wild, reckless lives. Or it’s the opposite, sacrificing family life for careers, recreation, money, knowledge, and power-the “me life”. Teen pregnancies, abortions, rape, gang violence, alcoholism and drugs are part of the norm for the life of a teenager in our day and age. College is no different.

   In today’s culture women like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, Kim Kardashian, and successful business women are looked on as highly successful and are idolized by young girls. These women are popular with both men and women. Since people think so highly of them, of course everyone wants to be just like them. Girls want to be sexy and popular. The media portrays success to a woman as having a job, making money, leading a family, having smart successful children, having the perfect home, and having their husbands bless and serve them. Women are not content until they have this and more.

(Now, I know and fully understand that there are so many single moms and single girls who are without a family who need jobs and work. My mom had a full time job for 5 years after my dad was diagnosed with several brain disorders! She had to provide for a family of 9 by working for our small family run business alone. I know how hard it is, and how distressing it can be. So please don’t take it to heart or feel discouraged if you are a single provider with no husband to take care of you. God is our ultimate father and husband in the end. He will care for you and help you. Only by turning to Him can we find complete security and peace. )

So while girls are becoming “stronger” and more dominant men are becoming weaker and more feminine.

Sadly this is not just occurring in the secular societies but also in the church. Women are sometimes seen preaching from the pulpit, pastors don’t want to take sides in moral or governmental issues, there is no backbone to modern churches. Women gossip and point fingers in the church and churches are split. Youth groups are turning into church dates. Boys and girls go to hang out with their peers and flirt with each other.

This is the most disturbing to me. We are using God and using the church to get boyfriends and girlfriends; to send secret glances to a crush that say a lot more than “hello” and then wrap it with a “Christian” label because it’s just youth group! Girls dress like the celebrities they watch and boys get “in touch with their feminine side” by wearing girlish clothing.

So what happened to our country where just 60 years ago women were content to be beautiful and live at home and love their husbands and children? Where the men were manly and loved to be the leaders and entrepreneurs? Where churches were the influence to the world (rather than the other way around) and revivals sprung up throughout the country with preachers like Billy Gram, Charles Swindoll, Warren Wiersbe, Chuck Smith, and others?

Well to answer these questions in short I believe women lost the art and joy of homemaking.

They lost the vision their grandmothers had before the great wars. The ladies had to go to work to support their families. They watched their husbands dissipate into drugs and alcohol. They were told religion was wrong and that they could get rid of their babies if they wanted too. Women have been lied to in schools, through the media, their peers, their colleagues and even their embittered parents. The 1950’s school text books used to share the vision of home and happiness. Today, women are told this suppresses you and will make you unhappy.

 So half of the reason why our country and children are failing, the reason why there are so many abortions, and the reason so many teenagers and young adults are lost and irresponsible is because women have left the heart of their homes. They’ve that something is better than the moral grounds which this country was based on and which their mothers were raised on. Why am I only blaming the women? Don’t the men have some involvement with the destruction which is at hand? Of course they do. But it starts at the home; with the mothers. Women train children, they feed them, they inspire, they are the source of information whom everyone turns to.

So what can we do? What is the solution to a corrupt world being overthrown by reckless women?

The women must return home. This is no easy solution but it is imperative. It’s crucial actually! They must return to the Christian morals that our foundation of this country was built upon. There is no other way. We must raise our children to love God, work hard, have integrity, and love our country.

Only then, will families be put back together, children stop dropping out of school, men embrace their manliness, and the governments finally run on strong moral values! Not until women embrace their calling as mothers, godly wives, homemakers and life givers will abortions stop, children grow into worthy generational thinkers, and divorces come to a halt.

But the women will not return home just like that, on a whim, on their own.

Most of them don’t even know what they are doing or what they are causing. They’ve been raise to believe the lies of today’s culture. So how and when will they return Home? Who will tell them? You can! Yes, you. And this isn’t one of those motivational “little old you can change the world with a small act” type deal. This is real. You and all the women in your church must get together, talk about our country, our citizens and discuss the real problem. Then you must be ambassadors for Gods Kingdom! You must be witnesses, examples, and role models to all the girls and young adults you meet or encounter.

“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matt 5:14-16

   The women and men of the church must take a stand once more; a stand for God, a stand for integrity, moral justice, and a stand for the rights of children. How will our next generation hold against the evil and trials that are coming if there are no righteous or godly historical values in them?

You might be asking “how can my church stand out?” I will tell you how to get started and point the right path which you should take, which has worked for my family and me.

  1. You must talk to your friends and family about this! Open up a discussion at dinner or at a friend’s house. If it is your desire to be a mother who raises a godly family and serves her husband the way Christ served the church then you must tell your peers this. It won’t be easy. It will be difficult. You might get criticized and embarrassed. But did not Jesus suffer in the same way for what He believed in?Tell your friends what your calling means to you and why you believe most Christian women should return to their homes and the lifestyle God has called them too. Don’t be afraid to let them know. MOST importantly tell your family this. Tell them your reasons and hopefully they will agree with you. If not, be an example to them. Let them see how God has called you and changed your lifestyle.
  2. Gather a group of friends at your church, maybe talk to your pastor and his wife. Tell them the same thing. Your beliefs and why God has called you to be a homemaker and wife and mother. Start a homemakers group! Have a once a month or once a week group and have coffee, go through a book, do activities/crafts, talk, minister and pray together. This should be very fun!My mom and I have started or gone to homemakers groups ever since I was very young. I’ve met so many young beautiful women with the same calling as my mom and I. Ask your church to announce it on Sundays and invite all the girls you know. For ideas on what to talk about or read about follow this link: Starting a Women’s Bible Study

By doing this you are encouraging your community to obey Gods calling for women. You will be making a huge impact on the world by sharing what Godly womanhood is with girls you know.

       3. Be an EXAMPLE! You must set the example to your friends and family. Be loving, babysit children, bake, clean, share with others what you do at home-not by bragging but when talking about occupations or hobbies don’t be afraid to talk about what you do! And don’t be a faker! This is when a girl is doing all of the above to catch a husband or to look good. Be a homemaker to glorify God and not yourself! Do not engage in frivolous activities or be immature. Set the standard so that when people are around you they want to be mature and clever.

   By following all of these steps God willing-you will have planted a seed, helped a future generation, saved a baby’s life, or brought several women home. The way to reach our nation and country is through your community and the women and friends in your church. The more women staying home AND speaking out about being homemakers the more will follow.

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE!

To get started on your journey you have to have more wisdom than I can give you. By reading any of the following books your life will never be the same. After reading a few of these books I hope you will grasp the gravity of “godly womanhood in the 21st century” and follow the 3 steps I gave. Just try it! You won’t be disappointed. You will be persecuted, yes, but don’t despair!

“Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you,
and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake.

 Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven,
for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”  Matt 5:11-12

Daughters Book List:

  • Preparing to be a Helpmeet by Debi Pearl
  • Joyfully at Home by Jasmine Baucham 
  • So Much More by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin
  • It’s Not That Complicated by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin
  • Seasons of a Mother’s Heart by Sally Clarckson
  • Raising Maidens of Virtue by Stacy McDonald
  • True Womanhood published by Pearables
  • Beautiful Girlhood revised by Karen Andreola
  • Return of the Daughters (DVD)
  • Way of Agape Nancy and Chuck Missler

For Mothers & Wives:

  • Created to Be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl
  • The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
  • Seasons of a Mothers Heart by Sally Clarkson
  • Passionate Housewives Desperate for God by Jennie Chancey & Stacy McDonald
  • The Hidden Art of Homemaking by Edith Schaeffer
  • The Power of Motherhood by Nancy Campbell
  • To Train Up a Child by Michael & Debi Pearl
  • True Womanhood by Pearables
  • A Mother’s Heart: A Look at Values, Vision, and Character for the Christian Mother by Jean Fleming

All of these books can be found on Amamzon.com or on Christianbook.com
Thank you for reading and listening. Now you know the problem and how to try and fix it. Please help our future generation, help our country. Pray about it, seek God’s face and step up to accomplish what God has clearly called you to do.

~Lisa

  • VERY GOOD! 🙂 I definitely agree with you. 🙂

  • You don’t know HOW long I have been longing to hear those words! My mother would LOVE this, and we will both aim to reach the goal you have set us here, and I want to read those books as well that you recommended! thank you so much for your encouraging and influential blog post! – Aviel 🙂

  • Elizabeth

    Well said! I have been home now (returned home) for 81/2 years now. I know this is where God
    has me and yes I have experienced much persecution for doing so, sadly from alot of “Christians”
    in the church who follow the worlds ways. But I will answer to Him one day, no one else. God Bless

  • LOVE this article. I posted it on facebook and caught a lot of flack. People just HATE hearing the truth. It’s time for those of us with beliefs to really stand up for what we believe in. The people who have no beliefs seem to have the loudest and most obnoxious voices. The traditional Christian family is under a lot of persecution! So glad there are others out there with similar views, I often feel alone!

    • That’s wonderful that you’ve shared this! Please know that you are not alone! There are so many other women out there who believe the same principals and ideas as you and I. If you click on our page “Inspiration” it will take you to a list of similar ministries and books that were written by like-minded women. =) Thank you for reading and all your support!

      For God, for family,
      ~Lisa

  • Everyone loves it when individuals come together and share views. Great website, stick with it!

  • Awesome post! I often want to write things like this but get scared for all the ‘hate’ mail I would get. Well done sister. Stopping by from WW Link Up.

    • Hi Leigh Anne,
      I was afraid too for the first year of this ministry being live but I realized that I was being selfish by keeping what God taught me to myself. He wanted me to share and I shouldn’t let other people’s opinions derive me from what God says. I do get a lot of hate mail but I know that God is using this ministry for His glory and that is all that matters. =) I pray that God will direct your steps in regards to the same area in your life. God bless!

      ~Lisa

  • Lila

    Hi! You’re article is truly convicting and beautifully written. I agree with your points, and I saw your disclaimer at the beginning about single mothers. I would just like to ask how you advise a single mom to apply this to her life? I’m a single mom of one and we have our hard days but by and by we are really getting on very well through God’s grace. I know that God has a husband for me and will bring him in due time so
    I am joyful and content with life as it stands. What advice would you give a woman/mother who can’t be a part of a church homemakers group or pass down a legacy of joyful homemaking through example?

    • Hello! I’m so sorry that it has taken me this long to respond. I was sick over the last few days. I would just like to encourage you by saying that it is not impossible to pass down a legacy of joyful homemaking through example as a single mother who works outside of the home. I don’t speak through my own personal experience but through older women who have taught me and through the example of my own mom. You will have it harder than the other moms who are blessed to be able to stay home and teach their children, but it is NOT impossible.

      You can teach your daughters (if you have any) the beauty and blessings that come from being a homemaker by teaching her to cook, giving her chores to do around the house, giving her reading material that will encourage this calling in her life and by setting the example when you are at home. Have her do bible studies on chapters in the Bible like 1 Peter 3, Proverbs 31, and Titus 2. You can be encouraged and encourage others in this calling. Even though you aren not at your home, you are still the heart of your home. Your attitude, character and personality shape and create a home even though you work outside. 🙂

      I hope this has helped. I would like to recommend a couple resources to you that can give you more insight and encouragement in this topic.
      Home with a Heart : the Art of Homemaking for Single Mothers, by Elaine Bond. And this blog is run by a single mom and she talks all about it! http://themommycalling.com/2014/01/21/homemaking-and-the-single-mom/ Let me know what you think and feel free to email me if you would like to continue this conversation or if you have any more questions that I could help you with! I pray blessings over you and your beautiful family. I’m so happy that you have this vision for your life and family. It is a very rare and special jewel. God bless and much love,

      ~Lisa

  • I’m sorry, but I cannot agree with your position that all women must be homemakers.

    A lot of strong comments have been made in generalities and these comments have not been supported with facts. From the opening paragraph in which a generic successful businesswoman is lumped in with Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, Kim Kardashian to the recommended reading list at the end that included some very dangerous books, I am saddened by the generalization and simplistic solutions to complex problems.

    Although I want you to be proud of what you’re doing as stay home moms, I also want to see the entire body of Christ honored by the other and a return to our true roots namely being known for our love.

  • Katha

    I like your attitude beeing totally commited to God and the zeal to reach the christian standards as a women, in our times this isn´t easy.. But I also don´t agree that we all have to stay at homes. I know that God called me to be a nurse, because working with patients I make the best use of my talents. Family should have always a priority but I believe that we can serve our families and at the same time work in other areas too.. Sorry for my English, not a native speaker..

  • Heeeeeeyyyy Lisa! I have a question about this post! I was wondering what you mean when you say that woman should be the homemakers…Like, when I get married my dream is to be a stay-at-home mom, but what as a single woman? do you feel that woman should stay at home til they are married too? Is that what your saying?

  • Ashton

    Although homemaking is a very noble thing, I do not agree that it is the solution to the world’s problems. I can have a family that I love and cherish while also having a successful career. My ambition has never gotten in the way of spirituality. If I had to be a stay at home mom to insure my children were being raised appropriately, I would go insane. I want to continue my education as far as I can and work until I am not physically able. Homemaking is not for everyone. Homemaking is a job like any other one, some just choose to be nurses or CEO’s or teachers or whatever they desire. The problem with women like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj etc., etc. is not that they are successful, it is that they do not live their lives for Christ. Professional success does not hinder a healthy spiritual life nor growth of a Christian family. Strong, educated working women can be just as good of mothers and wives as stay at home moms.

  • Isn’t Jesus THE ANSWER for the world??? I’m jus sayin! 🙂

  • Sayo Paul

    This is a great article . If only females took this advice , the world would be a better place . I love how you stood for the truth . God bless you , Amen .