Hashtags are very popular now-a-days aren’t they? This is funny, I tagged the word “godly” in a tweet on our Twitter account the other day and 80% of the tweets that were posted under the tag “godly” said “where are all the godly men at?” Then I did a Google search on the question. And I realized there were thousands of girls who were wondering the same thing.
So where are all the Godly Men?
-Well in answer to that question, I wrote this article.
The answers in all the articles I found were about how pastors, mentors or parents could “fix the men” and their problems by talking to the boys and men, about how to help them. The rest of the articles were how girls could find a Christian guy. The whole time I was thinking to myself “those poor guys!”
If we are to help the men at all, girls will need to respect the men and treat them like men. We cannot go on asking them “why aren’t you godlier?” this only demeans them and robs them of respect and honor. The question alone hurts and weakens the men in our generation.
We must make them feel needed and strong. We will need to step down from the commanding feminist role that women have been so long engaged in and give the leading role back to the men who are under God and God alone.
Every good Christian girl is wondering, “Where are the manly men in this world?” “Are there men out there besides the high-school boys who are just after drama and media?” “Are there men who love the Lord and want to raise a family like me, and if so, then where are they?”
Well girls, I’m sorry I have to be the one to break the news to you, but it’s not the boys that are missing. It’s you. What?! Bear with me. Godly men are out there, but it’s not up to you to find them. It’s not up to you to know where they are. It’s not even your place to ask where they are! Because by asking you are failing the test; the test of faith given to all single girls (by God) asking them to entrust their hearts and futures into His wise and all powerful hands.
Would you be able to trust God with your future? With your relationship? With your life?
It might be that you are not called or meant to be married. It’s up to God. I know that’s a scary thought for some women and to be honest, it scares me too. But what if God has called you to that lifestyle? Would you still have faith in God. Would you still choose to follow Him, or would you abandon your convictions, compromise your godly lifestyle and seek out a man without Gods help? (Food for thought)
I know a story of a beautiful young lady who was a Pastors sister. She was a missionary and loved the Lord. She trusted him with her future and didn’t know if she would be married or not. But she didn’t care because she knew God had a plan. She was content in Him and waited patiently for Him to give her the desires of her heart. And not until she was 39 did God bring the right man into her life and was able to be married!
Can you trust God in the same way?
We say to ourselves “Well I want a Taylor Swift- Love Story kind of relationship.” (Only with a Christian guy, who looks like a One Direction singer) 😉
Girls, sometimes-most of the time, that’s not real life. We need to open our eyes to the reality of what it truly means to trust God with our futures and embrace real life. Real life is found in the relationships you invest in, your family, your church, your community of like-minded believers. Real life is the here and now.
Try focusing your time and energy on doing things that will make a long lasting effect on the people around you. In our day and age, there are so many people who are hungry to know what true Christianity looks like. There are not very many trustworthy examples of Christ’s love, not even in the church-sad to say. Instead of focusing on trying to find a godly guy, try becoming the woman that he needs in his life by being an example of a pure bride who loves Jesus and displays His love to others.
When it all comes down, the real question is not “where are all the godly men?”
It’s “where/who are the girls placing their hopes in these days?” Are they placing their hopes in guys who act more like high school characters than manly men of the faith? Are they placing their hope in someone who will save them from their boring lives at home? Are they placing their hope in a future “dream career”?
Or are they placing their hope in God and what He is doing in their lives?
Ladies, in the Bible Jesus says: “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things…For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matt 6:33-34, 21
So where is your heart placing it’s joy and contentment these days? Is it safely resting in Jesus hands? Don’t worry. He’s got everything under control. After all He formed you and made your beautiful smile that, God willing, a man someday will not be able to live without!
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Will you let me know what you thought of this article? Answer a few of the questions in the comments below or leave your thoughts in the comments instead.
-Have you ever wondered where your godly man was?
-Are you discouraged that you may not be married?
-Will you continue to place your trust and contentment in Jesus?
-Will you make an effort to effect the lives around you by living out Christs love in your life?