We’ve all experienced it. The girl who makes you feel like dirt. The girl who makes you feel like all of your efforts to try to fit in are worthless. The girl who makes sure that she gets all of the attention while you agonizingly watch on the sidelines. This is the girl who makes you feel like she is better than you.

First of all, I would like to say that you aren’t the only one who has experienced this. Nope. This kind of “better than you” attitude traces way back into History. Think about it. Governments, countries, nobles, royalty, people groups, they have all played this role. When they used to pick and choose who would be the better people groups, revolutions started, wars broke out, and many, many people died because of it.

Now, our situations are not anywhere near as drastic. However, they are still just as wounding. 

We need to remember however, that love covers a multitude of sin. No matter how bad other people might make us feel, we are called to show them mercy and love; regardless of how they treat us. I know you are probably thinking that I sound like your mom right now but bear with me!

I know how it feels to be put down and I know how it feels when you think you are being judged like a poor orphan girl at the queens ball. Sometimes, I come up with insults in my mind that I would say to the people who have hurt me, I have to admit I have a sailors mouth in my imagination. But that is just a sign that I am dealing with pride.

Pride says you don’t deserve to be treated bad. Pride says she doesn’t deserve attention. Pride says that we are more godly than she is. Pride says we should be the ones making her feel like she doesn’t fit in. Pride says that we are more deserving of God’s love than she is. Do you see where this is going?

The more we focus on ourselves the more we lose focus on what is important.

Looking at other girls who make you feel less than makes you have feelings of anger, resentment, jealousy, and worst of all, pride. A few years down the road if we continue in this downward spiral and let other people’s actions affect us we will end up doing the same thing: making others feel like you are better than them.

Actions rub off on us. Whether you choose to accept or deny that statement is up to you. But in all reality, we know that it is true. In time, if you choose to let other girls actions affect you, you will start making others feel the way those girls made you feel.

What you need to decide right now is whether you are going to become one of the girls who acts like she is better than everyone else or are you going to “adorn yourself” with a meek and gentle spirit? (1 Peter 3:4)

Maybe you are someone who acts like she is better than other people because that’s the way you’ve been taught to get others to like you. Maybe you think that that is how cool people act. Maybe you do it without even noticing you make others feel belittled. It’s time to notice it though. It’s time you see how your actions affect others. We are all created as brothers and sisters in the Lord and we are ALL equal in His eyes. Even the girl who walks around annoying everyone and calling you everyday to hang out.

Because we love the Lord we are called to love others.

“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19) This means we don’t pick and choose who we want to love. This means we love the girl(s) who make us feel like they are somehow better than us. This means we love the girl who walks all over you and tries to hang around you all the time. We love the girls who don’t have any friends. We love the girls who look down on us. Why? Because God loves them. Because God loves us and because THIS is what He has called us to do.

I know it sounds difficult. Okay, really difficult. But guess what? I have good news for you. You don’t have to do it. That’s right, you don’t have to love others. You can’t anyways. You’re only human. It takes a mighty God to love others. It takes a HUGE heart to love all of the people who seem to hurt us. All you have to do is ask God for a willing heart to love others. Ask God to love them through you, because Lord knows you can’t do it on your own.

Make an effort to take that next step by asking God for His love for the girls that you can’t see eye to eye with. Ask Him for His heart for them. Ask God to open your eyes to see what He sees in them. It won’t be hard if you let God work through you.

“To love another person is to see the face of God.”― Victor Hugo

Don’t buy into societies way of how we treat others who we think aren’t as cool as we deem ourselves to be. Be better than that. Rise above our societies mindset. Be like Jesus. It’s far more rewarding. It’s far more beautiful. And much more attractive in a woman.

Thank you for taking time to read this. Please leave any prayer request, questions or thoughts in the comments below. God bless!