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Did We Kiss Before Our Wedding Day?
Hi ladies,I want to finally address a topic and the most prominent question in my inbox since I began my relationship with Dylan. Dylan and I actually wrote this article together and would like to share it with you all so that you know this is coming from both of us!So we started praying about beginning a relationship in September 2015 and by November 7th we knew that God wanted us to be together and start dating/courting.
I (Lisa) dropped off of the blogging community when this happened because I take my writing very seriously and it’s sort of like opening my diary to you all. When I started dating Dylan I wanted it to be private and special and I didn’t want a ton of opinions to be swirling around in my head during this amazing time in our lives. Ever since then I’ve been very quiet on my blog and I apologize for that. I think that once I write this article and say everything I’ve needed to say that I can be more active with my writing on A Lovely Calling.
We got married a little over 2 years ago, after a year of dating and then being engaged for three short but beautiful months! When we got married and during the entire time that we were dating I was flooded with questions of whether or not we were saving our first kiss for our wedding or if we were being physically pure while dating ect. I (Lisa) remember the same month I first met Dylan I wrote an article called “Kissing Before Marriage: Yes or No?” I know this article may have inspired a lot of my readers and I got quite a bit of feedback on it. So when I started dating Dylan I had at the forefront of my mind my original conviction to save my first kiss for my wedding day no matter how in love I was or how badly I wanted a kiss.
What Won’t Change When You’re Married
As a young child, I could hardly wait for my twelve torturous years of school to be over. I would count down the days until I would no longer be chained down by paper and pen. I would finish each school day with the exciting thought that someday soon I would graduate. I would be an adult, and this tiresome time of lessons and homework would all be over.
Yet now that kindergarten through sixth..
A Promise Box for Your Future Husband
Married life. No one knows what it is like until they’ve been married. It can be rewarding, promising, challenging and surprising in many ways. Right now, you’re either single or in a relationship and all you know is your day-to-day life. But did you know that your future husband needs to hear from you right now? From the girl that you are on this day. He wants to know what you’re like. What..
What to Look For in a Godly Man
*Last Tuesday, we published an article called How to be a Woman Worth Pursuing. We gained quite a few responses concerning the article and decided to write one about what to look for in a godly man.
When you look around at the world of men today, it’s hard to not be discouraged by some of the character traits (or lack of them) that appear in the men. Rarely do we see a man who acts or shows..
How to Be a Woman Worth Pursuing
We’ve written several articles in the past about how to be a godly woman in a difficult generation, we’ve talked about singleness, we’ve talked about relationships, but I thought it would be a good idea to address the topic of how to be a godly woman worth being pursued by a godly man.
Sometimes it’s hard to know what is required. Sometimes you wonder if you are doing something wrong if you’ve..
Navigating the Undefined Relationship
It’s the agony and the ecstasy, isn’t it? An amazing godly man shows interest in you, and you want to know if this is “the one.” Like, now.
Fear looms on the horizon and the emotional stakes are high. You want to do the right thing, you long to honor the Lord, but what does that look like in this undefined relationship? How do you risk the chance at love while guarding your heart from unnecessary anguish?
I spent long years wrestling with this question, and it has been the subject of countless conversations with other single friends. We girls long for clarity, guarantees, and a fail-proof method for falling in love with the right guy at the right time.
But there are none…
3 Ways To Get The Right Kind Of Man To Like You
Blog posts and Youtube videos with titles like the one this article has, have always annoyed me. The perspective is completely backward, the focus is very selfish, and they encourage the wrong kind of mindset. It’s always about manipulation. What knobs you can turn, and what levers can you pull to get the result you want. On top of that, the tips and tricks advised would only work on reeling in..
Happily Ever After vs. Right Now
Let’s talk about happily ever after.
Several years ago I created a list of 30 things I wanted to do before turning 30 years old, a bucket list, if you will. When I originally created this 30×30 list and gave my dreams to God, I had no idea that I would be blessed to cross off 29 of those 30 items. God is good.
To be quite honest, I almost put “get married” on the list. Almost.
A happy, healthy, long-term relationship–sounds like a normal thing for a twenty-something girl to want, right? So why wasn’t it on the list? If it’s something I want someday in my future then that seems like a natural thing to put on the list, right?
Confessions of a Relationship Obsessed Girl
When I was younger I was nailed to the idea that I would be married by age 16 and have my first adorable baby at age 18. I was so excited to grow up and meet my future husband and marry him. I told all of my family and friends that I wanted to get married at 16 and they would giggle and say good luck.
I held on to my dream and wished upon every star and dandelion weed that God would give me a husband to marry. Every boy I met I would “romanticize” my life with. I would match my first name with his last name and write it out on paper to see what it would look like. (Who hasn’t done that, right?)
Well, when I turned 15 Mr. Charming came into the picture. He was perfect. Tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, and even 3 years older than me. We began talking on a regular basis and he even asked me for my phone number.
Kissing Before Marriage: Yes or No?
“Take a deep breath. Here we go again” I tell myself. I was about to explain why I was saving my first kiss again. It’s not that I didn’t like telling others why I was saving my first kiss for marriage, it’s just that I already know the feedback I will get once I explain it. How did we get on this subject anyways? I forget.
*Sigh. “Well, ” I begin, “When I was little my parents told me that..